Section FIVE: Non-communication – Body Posture and Body Language
When working with individuals and groups of individuals it is worthwhile considering how your body language could on a subtle level, affect the way people respond to you.
|POSTURE:||If you get your posture right, you will feel better instantly. Also your sitting or standing position has some effect on your mood and feelings. So ensure that you are using the proper posture when you are talking with some other person. The way you place your body and arms and legs, in relation to each other, and in relation to other people:
· Shoulder movements – Up, down, hanging, hunched.
· Arm placement – up, down, crossed, straight.
· Leg and feet placement – straight, crossed, weight placement, feet towards speaking partner or pointing elsewhere, dangling of shoes.
|HEAD MOTION :||You can feel confident and self-assured by keeping your head level horizontally and vertically. You have to keep your head straight if you want to be authoritative and want the other person take seriously what you are saying. While in conversation tilt your head a little to any of the sides to make the listener feel friendly. Just like your head, the posture of your arms indicates your openness and receptiveness of the person you are meeting. Always try to make a balance between your slow and fast arm movement by keeping your arms midway, but don’t cross your hands at front as it is considered as a sign of disagreement.|
|FACIAL EXPRESSION :||The face has many muscles which move areas of the face. Each combination of movements of the following face elements communicates a state of mind:
· Eyebrows – Up, down, frowning.
· Eyes – Left, right, up, down, blinking, eye dilatation.
· Nose – Wrinkle (at the top), flaring of the nostrils.
· Lips – Smiling, snarling, puckered, kissing, opened, closed, tight.
· Tongue – In, out, rolled, tip up or down, licking of lips.
· Jaw – Open, closed, clinched, lower jaw left or right.
|EYE CONTACT :||This is one of the most important aspects of your body language when you are dealing with some people whom you have just met. Eye contacts also indicate that you are showing interest in what they are saying and also giving respect to their opinion. They will also feel more comfortable and a sense of genuine comfort while they are in your company. So keep eye contact more than 60% of the time when you are in company with the person.|
|GESTURES :||Your hand gestures indicate a large number of things. For instance, slightly up and open palms are considered open and friendly whereas palm down gestures are normally considered as dominant, emphasizing and possibly aggressive. These up and down gestures of palms are of great importance when you are shaking hand with the other person. It is always better to offer an upright and vertical handshake as it is considered as sign of equality. How you handle and place objects whilst running a CBRT Relaxation Support Session (e.g. the Colour Breathing Disks, etc). When describing the inwards breath and outwards breath, some CBRT Practitioners have found it helps to demonstrate correct breathing through using their arms in sweeping gestures – away from their body and back towards their body.|
|BODY ANGLES and LEG MOVEMENT :||The angle of your body in relation to others indicates your attitude and feelings towards them. Normally people angle towards the other when they like person and angle themselves away when they do not like the other person. So ensure that you put your body in a proper angle by tilting to of from the other person in a balanced way to avoid any negative indication to the other person. Always try to keep your legs still, as legs tend to move around comparatively more when someone is nervous, stressed or being deceptive. Also ensure that your knees or ankles are not crossed.Having your leg up to rest in on your knees is considered a defensive posture.|
Your Distance from the Other Person / GROUP OF PEOPLE:
Your distance from the other always send some sign to the other person. When you stand too close to the other person you are considered pushy whereas by standing too far away from the other person you are considered keeping your distance. So ensure that you are neither too close nor too far away from the people when you meet them in a group. Also ensure that you have not moved too closer to someone that he has to back away indicating that you have overstepped the mark and entered into his personal space.
Tone of Voice
How you speak whilst delivering CBRT Relaxation Support sessions for indiviuals and groups of people is also very important. While usually seen as body language, tone of voice and intonation are a separate group from body language. For completeness sake, these are the groups that are found in tone of voice:
- Pitch of voice– high voice, low voice, intonation.
- Loudness– Everything from shouting to whispering.
- Breathing – Slow, fast breathing, shaky voice.
SHOWING CARE and COMPASSION
Compassion is the understanding or empathy for the suffering of others. Compassion is often regarded as emotional in nature, and there is an aspect of compassion which regards a quantitative dimension, such that individual’s compassion is often given a property of “depth,” “vigour,” or “passion.”
It is often the key component in altruism; in ethical terms, the principle of compassion is : Do to others what you would have them do to you. The English noun compassion, meaning to suffer together with; compassion is related in origin, form and meaning to the English noun patient = one who suffers.